This one can be hard to ignore.
You know her mood can change quickly, so you start thinking before saying anything. You choose your words carefully. You avoid certain topics. Maybe you even change your plans because you’re worried about how she’ll react.
A marriage shouldn’t leave you feeling like you’re constantly trying not to set off an argument.
That doesn’t mean every argument or bad phase makes someone toxic. People have stressful periods, make mistakes and sometimes behave badly. What matters is whether these things keep happening and whether there’s any willingness to recognise them and change.
And if the relationship involves threats, intimidation, violence or genuine fear, that’s much more serious than simply having a difficult marriage. Reaching out to someone you trust or a qualified professional can help you figure out what to do next.