Ask any parent what they teach their child, and you’ll probably hear about manners, homework and good habits. But children are always watching, and a lot of what they pick up never comes from a lecture at all. They copy the way we speak to the delivery boy, the way we react when the traffic is terrible, and even the way we hold our phones at the dinner table. It happens quietly, day after day, until it becomes part of who they are. Here are five things children absorb from the adults around them, often without anyone noticing.